corboy posted:
"That is coerced intimacy, and it’s not ok.
For instance, an NVC advocate with power over someone might say in response to a conflict with that person: I can see that this interaction is very difficult for you. I’m sensing a lot of anger. I’m saddened that your experiences with authority figures have been so negative. (Expectant pause). I think you are experiencing a lot of anger right now, is that right?"
I don't know if Landmark calls this NVC, but it sure SEEMS go along the same guidelines. For all intents and purposes, it is NVC.
The sample conversation above is almost identical to one that I had with my recruiter. When it happened, I told her adamantly that she was violating my boundaries, that she was crossing a line. She kept pushing, anyway. (I did continue to refuse).
She went on to say that I wasn't "complete," with something. A person had done me great and deliberate harm. She wanted me to "bury the hatchet" with that woman. I told her that I was complete. I had walked away, and that was good enough for me. I pointed out that, since she was the one bringing it up, that she was the one that was not "complete" with it, and that she needed to "Get complete" with the fact that I was not going to be in contact with that woman. I further told her that i had never given her any authority over my life.
In Landmark, they tell you that if someone refuses to have a discussion, that their refusal is a sure sign of a "racket," so once again, they are trying to dismantle healthy, normal defenses.
"That is coerced intimacy, and it’s not ok.
For instance, an NVC advocate with power over someone might say in response to a conflict with that person: I can see that this interaction is very difficult for you. I’m sensing a lot of anger. I’m saddened that your experiences with authority figures have been so negative. (Expectant pause). I think you are experiencing a lot of anger right now, is that right?"
I don't know if Landmark calls this NVC, but it sure SEEMS go along the same guidelines. For all intents and purposes, it is NVC.
The sample conversation above is almost identical to one that I had with my recruiter. When it happened, I told her adamantly that she was violating my boundaries, that she was crossing a line. She kept pushing, anyway. (I did continue to refuse).
She went on to say that I wasn't "complete," with something. A person had done me great and deliberate harm. She wanted me to "bury the hatchet" with that woman. I told her that I was complete. I had walked away, and that was good enough for me. I pointed out that, since she was the one bringing it up, that she was the one that was not "complete" with it, and that she needed to "Get complete" with the fact that I was not going to be in contact with that woman. I further told her that i had never given her any authority over my life.
In Landmark, they tell you that if someone refuses to have a discussion, that their refusal is a sure sign of a "racket," so once again, they are trying to dismantle healthy, normal defenses.