kdag wrote:
"I wonder how many people stick around at this point hoping to do some type of "damage control," or even hoping against hope that, if they can figure out what these people want, the damage was either not real, or could somehow be undone/reversed. I think that's what I was hoping. And the cognitive dissonance at this point was so bad, that I truly did not believe my eyes."
It seems to me that this logic may resemble what goes on in some domestic abuse scenarios, and where we have the abused spouse trying desperately to reconcile the mixed messages.
It also seems to me that in cases of domestic abuse and LGAT abuse, there has been emotional intimacy, or the perception of it, and then a MASSIVE violation of trust. Dealing with this violation of trust may seem more painful to the victim, than severing ties with the abuser(s).
"I wonder how many people stick around at this point hoping to do some type of "damage control," or even hoping against hope that, if they can figure out what these people want, the damage was either not real, or could somehow be undone/reversed. I think that's what I was hoping. And the cognitive dissonance at this point was so bad, that I truly did not believe my eyes."
It seems to me that this logic may resemble what goes on in some domestic abuse scenarios, and where we have the abused spouse trying desperately to reconcile the mixed messages.
It also seems to me that in cases of domestic abuse and LGAT abuse, there has been emotional intimacy, or the perception of it, and then a MASSIVE violation of trust. Dealing with this violation of trust may seem more painful to the victim, than severing ties with the abuser(s).