so I had no idea about the world of lgat seminars until my recent ex gf went to Choices Seminar. she spawned it on me after 6 months of dating and went as a coach as she had completed all other courses. she tried to recruit me multiple times each time more insulting.
After she returned, she was not the same girl. very self centered, egotistical, mean, non loving etc. She dumped me cold over phone and no closure at all, even though things had been great. and continued to hoover and rub things n my face as well as blame me for everything while never owning up to herself or realizing her behaviors. she would always reply in a tantrum and insult me instead of answering questions or talking, respecting my thoughts.
any way, my curiosity struck me when she posted an emotional rambling on Facebook today. In summ the message said:
1) bluntly said in first sentence she doesn't have many friends and ppl find that strange but she doesn't and is ok with it. has a few dear to her and that's all she needs.
2) States in her opinion, 3 types of ppl - ppl who take comfort in people, material things and places. That she is the places type and traveling is what makes her feel "alive"
3) more rambling about why travel feeds the fibers of her life etc. (mind you shes advebturous and has traveled some, but not all that much)
part of this in my opinion comes from a 2 week trip to Germany coming up in few weeks with a guy friend alone (no romantic link, but she did travel with him and spend equal time with him over me during our 6 months together. I know for a fact there's no way she can afford to miss 2 weeks of work/pay and afford this trip. Either he's paying for it all or she's losing her critical thinking ability.
Part of me believes a friend or family member had a talking with her about her priorities in life and this was her way to validate her beliefs and receive adoration. the message read very depressing but I won't post bc of privacy.
shes almost 34,never married nor seems to want real reationship, high narcisstic tendencies and is mormon, but not super strict. she herself admits that she's private on social media and she's the least emotional girl I've dated. also she's very defensive and has a very self entitled approach to life. She blew up and got way dramatic and emotionally abused me in our relationship (very similar method to the lgat process of brainwashing) and lied wildly about me to build herself up often. This is the first time in 7 months I've seen any sign of vulnerability in her.
Therefore, this post scares me for her health bc it's way out of character for her pre-Choices. this isn't about us reconnecting, it's more that I have a soft spot for signs of depression bc i myself battled it clinically for 6 years with professional therapy. I'm especially worried bc she has no one to go to in Mormon community who would offer a different view, she doesn't believe in therapy and will rely on her Choices buddies which will reinforce her life choices.
My questions to the community may be simple or already stated, I apologize I'm new to all of this. But...
1) Do lgat members often become depressed 2 months after attending?
2) Does anyone else read this as depressing or am I overthinking bc I do care and miss her a bit? the real her anyway.
3)Does Lgat enhance narcissism?
4) she views everything as her "reality" and any help or reaction is that person's fault. She's blind to her behaviors and lack of empathy, but in this message she's trying to validate her "reality" with her admirers and social media friends who are mostly distant, mormon, or choices friends. Does thing feeling of validation come more from lgat or narcissism?
Any and all advice or common experiences with losing a loved one to lgat is more than appreciated as I'm very new to all this.
thank you and God bless
After she returned, she was not the same girl. very self centered, egotistical, mean, non loving etc. She dumped me cold over phone and no closure at all, even though things had been great. and continued to hoover and rub things n my face as well as blame me for everything while never owning up to herself or realizing her behaviors. she would always reply in a tantrum and insult me instead of answering questions or talking, respecting my thoughts.
any way, my curiosity struck me when she posted an emotional rambling on Facebook today. In summ the message said:
1) bluntly said in first sentence she doesn't have many friends and ppl find that strange but she doesn't and is ok with it. has a few dear to her and that's all she needs.
2) States in her opinion, 3 types of ppl - ppl who take comfort in people, material things and places. That she is the places type and traveling is what makes her feel "alive"
3) more rambling about why travel feeds the fibers of her life etc. (mind you shes advebturous and has traveled some, but not all that much)
part of this in my opinion comes from a 2 week trip to Germany coming up in few weeks with a guy friend alone (no romantic link, but she did travel with him and spend equal time with him over me during our 6 months together. I know for a fact there's no way she can afford to miss 2 weeks of work/pay and afford this trip. Either he's paying for it all or she's losing her critical thinking ability.
Part of me believes a friend or family member had a talking with her about her priorities in life and this was her way to validate her beliefs and receive adoration. the message read very depressing but I won't post bc of privacy.
shes almost 34,never married nor seems to want real reationship, high narcisstic tendencies and is mormon, but not super strict. she herself admits that she's private on social media and she's the least emotional girl I've dated. also she's very defensive and has a very self entitled approach to life. She blew up and got way dramatic and emotionally abused me in our relationship (very similar method to the lgat process of brainwashing) and lied wildly about me to build herself up often. This is the first time in 7 months I've seen any sign of vulnerability in her.
Therefore, this post scares me for her health bc it's way out of character for her pre-Choices. this isn't about us reconnecting, it's more that I have a soft spot for signs of depression bc i myself battled it clinically for 6 years with professional therapy. I'm especially worried bc she has no one to go to in Mormon community who would offer a different view, she doesn't believe in therapy and will rely on her Choices buddies which will reinforce her life choices.
My questions to the community may be simple or already stated, I apologize I'm new to all of this. But...
1) Do lgat members often become depressed 2 months after attending?
2) Does anyone else read this as depressing or am I overthinking bc I do care and miss her a bit? the real her anyway.
3)Does Lgat enhance narcissism?
4) she views everything as her "reality" and any help or reaction is that person's fault. She's blind to her behaviors and lack of empathy, but in this message she's trying to validate her "reality" with her admirers and social media friends who are mostly distant, mormon, or choices friends. Does thing feeling of validation come more from lgat or narcissism?
Any and all advice or common experiences with losing a loved one to lgat is more than appreciated as I'm very new to all this.
thank you and God bless