Day 2, Thursday, the day of the grungies
Around 17:00 start training with 'Sprach' and the corresponding entry ritual (hands up etc.). The trainees sit together in their TC groups. There then follows a question and answer games. Who knows still remember the best thing was the motto of the organization and what the purpose of the training is. So the trainer asks the questions, and the trainees may like schoolchildren raise their hands to indicate their answer. Kindergarten Sfeertje so. After that, the TC-groups in their own groups to share about each other's experiences and emotions. Is the question of what a trainee urgent or personal, the TC has been given instructions not to go there, but to encourage the trainee at the sharings his / her hand to stabbing.
Then follows a general sharing of successes. The concept of "success" is an essential part of the Essence mantra. The following items may call you if success:
A result achieved what you want
Perform an action, as planned or if necessary after some hesitation. How this action then turns out, is not important. If it does not work, follow Part 2 of the Essence mantra: "Stop, look, right, take action '
Recognize an error (and then Part 2 of the Essence mantra)
A better understanding about something you already knew
A completely new understanding (Aha-Erlebnis)
"Successes" within the Essence pretty much the cure any ailment. Do you feel tense, write down your successes. Do you feel down, write your successes. Have setback, write your successes. Etc. etc.
Followed by one of the funniest songs of Essence training: the chair derby. You're still together in your tc-groups, and everyone should sit down as soon as possible in rank and file. You can only start when the coach gave the signal. Everyone then tumbling over and over each other to get as quickly as possible to place his / her seat (plastic bucket seat, light and easy to stack). The valid locations are indicated with dots on the floor. That's all very tightly regulated. The only good if everyone is in its place and does not move anymore.
The time is recorded, and is then compared with the fastest group in Israel ever and the fastest Dutch group ever. The joke is that it can never be verified in the absence of official registration. And a group of 100 trainees is obviously substantially different from a group of 10 or 15. Well, at it's a funny ritual.
There is probably yet still something deeper behind. Especially early in the workout does not take anyone lightly. You can then easily observe a trainer who has not eager enough to swallow all the "truths" of the Essence like hot cake. It is also an indicator of the sense of belonging to a group. Beginning each of them with its seat (in the beginning is always the case), or of co-operation results in a system in which seats very quickly be passed on to each other in order to save time as. It seems harmless, but is it really you?
Then follows an explanation of the "vissekom. You will lodge in your vissekom if you think 'his' depends 'have' (you) or do (what you do). It involves a change in your thinking. You 'are' ensures that you "have" and "doing" are in place (or similar). This is illustrated with some stories. There follows a closed eyes process / visualization with some tracks.
After a pause is an explanation of "victim" and "responsible". The first is you come up in the atmosphere of excuses, wait and hope, blame and shirking and all kinds of automatic thoughts. The second is the search for the error yourself, create solutions and implement, recognize reality and move forward. Sounds at first glance not wrong, but there is a snag. What if someone has done you really angry? Eg sexual abuse, deceit, violence, or worse? This way of thinking offers excellent opportunities to "blaming the victim" (the victim is blamed for, he or she would be provoked or have been too passive, or ...).
The Essence knows how to apply this mechanism also very proficient if you run into trouble after a workout (depression, psychosis), then that is always "your responsibility" (read: "your own fault). Then ask "love, care and cooperation" from the Essence no longer common.
After a dyad process follows the grungies process (Essence jargon, a contraction of "grudge" (complaint) and something (which actually)?). The seats go to the side. The light dims. Participants then go deep into herself, eyes closed, seeking a frustration that they have for years. The trainer encourages them to participate in it more and more contact with yourself feel cheated with yourself ostracized feel, with its suppressed, with abused, with ... The trainer stoke the case and then finally calls to express it. So then pandemonium breaks loose from trainees who express their hurt feelings. That can be very intense, people who lie rigid as a small heap on the floor. People cry, people swearing, ranting, name calling, start to lash out. It varies trainer how far that late. Sometimes it remains a short burst, sometimes the trainer let it go on long. In some cases, run some trainees with their eyes closed indeed opstoppers on whether there are pretty hard collisions. The assistants do their best to avoid all that, but they may not always be in the tangle on time everywhere.
At one point calling the trainer that's enough. Then penetrating the trainees asked what the consequences in their lives were their grungees. For most trainees, this is a very challenging time. Usually see what they have given their lives for themselves in which they others pain. To stir up feeling a piece of music is played. Everyone has to share with his buddy go about the process. At that time the hall closes. Now a "clearing" of the process assistants. This process is also determined them not to sit in the cold clothes. Here too are many emotions, and often quite violent.
After the break, the trainees are again invoked the audience with 'Sprach'. After sharing is a dyad process, metaphorically, your father and mother.
You sit down with another trainee in dyad (the light is dim in the room), and turns you pretend you against your father talk. You may all say what the man has done wrong. You exchange each other therein. Are told very personal things. And many fathers is pretty much to criticize. Then comes the surprise; The trainer instructs everyone to thank your father for everything he has sacrificed for you. His own dreams and desires that because of you he has put in the background. You first have to thank him. It ends with a piece of music (can eg "Papa" of Stef Bos). The same story tells itself, but with your mother supposedly facing you. That is also sealed with a piece of music (eg "No more child 'Karin Bloemen).
Then follows a visualization, in which participants are asked to consider what decisions they took as a child to survive in the big bad world. That is energized with music (eg "Is this later" Stef Bos).
Then, it's back into the night, everyone is sent home.
The latter process the border with therapy is clearly exceeded in an Essence training. The organization claims that it "only a training" and "no therapy". That is a lie. The limit is clearly exceeded.
Around 17:00 start training with 'Sprach' and the corresponding entry ritual (hands up etc.). The trainees sit together in their TC groups. There then follows a question and answer games. Who knows still remember the best thing was the motto of the organization and what the purpose of the training is. So the trainer asks the questions, and the trainees may like schoolchildren raise their hands to indicate their answer. Kindergarten Sfeertje so. After that, the TC-groups in their own groups to share about each other's experiences and emotions. Is the question of what a trainee urgent or personal, the TC has been given instructions not to go there, but to encourage the trainee at the sharings his / her hand to stabbing.
Then follows a general sharing of successes. The concept of "success" is an essential part of the Essence mantra. The following items may call you if success:
A result achieved what you want
Perform an action, as planned or if necessary after some hesitation. How this action then turns out, is not important. If it does not work, follow Part 2 of the Essence mantra: "Stop, look, right, take action '
Recognize an error (and then Part 2 of the Essence mantra)
A better understanding about something you already knew
A completely new understanding (Aha-Erlebnis)
"Successes" within the Essence pretty much the cure any ailment. Do you feel tense, write down your successes. Do you feel down, write your successes. Have setback, write your successes. Etc. etc.
Followed by one of the funniest songs of Essence training: the chair derby. You're still together in your tc-groups, and everyone should sit down as soon as possible in rank and file. You can only start when the coach gave the signal. Everyone then tumbling over and over each other to get as quickly as possible to place his / her seat (plastic bucket seat, light and easy to stack). The valid locations are indicated with dots on the floor. That's all very tightly regulated. The only good if everyone is in its place and does not move anymore.
The time is recorded, and is then compared with the fastest group in Israel ever and the fastest Dutch group ever. The joke is that it can never be verified in the absence of official registration. And a group of 100 trainees is obviously substantially different from a group of 10 or 15. Well, at it's a funny ritual.
There is probably yet still something deeper behind. Especially early in the workout does not take anyone lightly. You can then easily observe a trainer who has not eager enough to swallow all the "truths" of the Essence like hot cake. It is also an indicator of the sense of belonging to a group. Beginning each of them with its seat (in the beginning is always the case), or of co-operation results in a system in which seats very quickly be passed on to each other in order to save time as. It seems harmless, but is it really you?
Then follows an explanation of the "vissekom. You will lodge in your vissekom if you think 'his' depends 'have' (you) or do (what you do). It involves a change in your thinking. You 'are' ensures that you "have" and "doing" are in place (or similar). This is illustrated with some stories. There follows a closed eyes process / visualization with some tracks.
After a pause is an explanation of "victim" and "responsible". The first is you come up in the atmosphere of excuses, wait and hope, blame and shirking and all kinds of automatic thoughts. The second is the search for the error yourself, create solutions and implement, recognize reality and move forward. Sounds at first glance not wrong, but there is a snag. What if someone has done you really angry? Eg sexual abuse, deceit, violence, or worse? This way of thinking offers excellent opportunities to "blaming the victim" (the victim is blamed for, he or she would be provoked or have been too passive, or ...).
The Essence knows how to apply this mechanism also very proficient if you run into trouble after a workout (depression, psychosis), then that is always "your responsibility" (read: "your own fault). Then ask "love, care and cooperation" from the Essence no longer common.
After a dyad process follows the grungies process (Essence jargon, a contraction of "grudge" (complaint) and something (which actually)?). The seats go to the side. The light dims. Participants then go deep into herself, eyes closed, seeking a frustration that they have for years. The trainer encourages them to participate in it more and more contact with yourself feel cheated with yourself ostracized feel, with its suppressed, with abused, with ... The trainer stoke the case and then finally calls to express it. So then pandemonium breaks loose from trainees who express their hurt feelings. That can be very intense, people who lie rigid as a small heap on the floor. People cry, people swearing, ranting, name calling, start to lash out. It varies trainer how far that late. Sometimes it remains a short burst, sometimes the trainer let it go on long. In some cases, run some trainees with their eyes closed indeed opstoppers on whether there are pretty hard collisions. The assistants do their best to avoid all that, but they may not always be in the tangle on time everywhere.
At one point calling the trainer that's enough. Then penetrating the trainees asked what the consequences in their lives were their grungees. For most trainees, this is a very challenging time. Usually see what they have given their lives for themselves in which they others pain. To stir up feeling a piece of music is played. Everyone has to share with his buddy go about the process. At that time the hall closes. Now a "clearing" of the process assistants. This process is also determined them not to sit in the cold clothes. Here too are many emotions, and often quite violent.
After the break, the trainees are again invoked the audience with 'Sprach'. After sharing is a dyad process, metaphorically, your father and mother.
You sit down with another trainee in dyad (the light is dim in the room), and turns you pretend you against your father talk. You may all say what the man has done wrong. You exchange each other therein. Are told very personal things. And many fathers is pretty much to criticize. Then comes the surprise; The trainer instructs everyone to thank your father for everything he has sacrificed for you. His own dreams and desires that because of you he has put in the background. You first have to thank him. It ends with a piece of music (can eg "Papa" of Stef Bos). The same story tells itself, but with your mother supposedly facing you. That is also sealed with a piece of music (eg "No more child 'Karin Bloemen).
Then follows a visualization, in which participants are asked to consider what decisions they took as a child to survive in the big bad world. That is energized with music (eg "Is this later" Stef Bos).
Then, it's back into the night, everyone is sent home.
The latter process the border with therapy is clearly exceeded in an Essence training. The organization claims that it "only a training" and "no therapy". That is a lie. The limit is clearly exceeded.