Many thanks Gloria, your a good soul! :)
While your info helps make sense of everything and eases confusion. I'm still stuck with the absence and pain of losing what would've been my wife in a matter of minutes.
It's like I'm grieving the fact she used me/wasn't real for so long, grieving the loss of her and love, grieving loss of relationship and grieving all the negative things she said about me that brought up past triggers all at the same time. While she walked away clean and free, showed 0 emotion or remorse or sadness and left me abandoned cold with no closure. She spawned this choices thing randomly one day late in our relationship,2 weeks later she returns and I never existed to her it seems; erased everything about me in days.
Maybe bc I'm curious by nature, but how can attendees lose sight of the good in their lives so quickly? Are these seminars and trainers THAT good/convincing?
I guess I would think if I mentioned to friends or family I was going to this type of thing, they'd be the first to pull me away or make me realize what's going on. Guess that's something I need to work on personally.
I can't get over how used I feel or still pains me to think all those good tinder moments with my ex were fake/a big con. I bet if I agreed to Choices she'd still be with me.
Every tactic or teaching I've learned they used at Choices, she indirectly applied them to me which caused me to go back to being depressed when at the time we met, I've never been better in life. I feel more stupidity and self shame for not being a stronger person to myself about this, I was compromising for (one-sided) love.
I know I can't change who she is,and with her narcissistic tendencies it escalated to ugly, but as a forever optimist and loyalist to those I get close to,I want more than anything for her to be her own self, unique personality and live a long healthy life without using an lgat seminar.
thank you again for your help and support. it's good to know I'm not alone in this sad situation unfortunately.
While your info helps make sense of everything and eases confusion. I'm still stuck with the absence and pain of losing what would've been my wife in a matter of minutes.
It's like I'm grieving the fact she used me/wasn't real for so long, grieving the loss of her and love, grieving loss of relationship and grieving all the negative things she said about me that brought up past triggers all at the same time. While she walked away clean and free, showed 0 emotion or remorse or sadness and left me abandoned cold with no closure. She spawned this choices thing randomly one day late in our relationship,2 weeks later she returns and I never existed to her it seems; erased everything about me in days.
Maybe bc I'm curious by nature, but how can attendees lose sight of the good in their lives so quickly? Are these seminars and trainers THAT good/convincing?
I guess I would think if I mentioned to friends or family I was going to this type of thing, they'd be the first to pull me away or make me realize what's going on. Guess that's something I need to work on personally.
I can't get over how used I feel or still pains me to think all those good tinder moments with my ex were fake/a big con. I bet if I agreed to Choices she'd still be with me.
Every tactic or teaching I've learned they used at Choices, she indirectly applied them to me which caused me to go back to being depressed when at the time we met, I've never been better in life. I feel more stupidity and self shame for not being a stronger person to myself about this, I was compromising for (one-sided) love.
I know I can't change who she is,and with her narcissistic tendencies it escalated to ugly, but as a forever optimist and loyalist to those I get close to,I want more than anything for her to be her own self, unique personality and live a long healthy life without using an lgat seminar.
thank you again for your help and support. it's good to know I'm not alone in this sad situation unfortunately.