just want to add my recent personal experience with my ex gf and a landmark offbranch called choices. your discussion called to me bc of the narcissist mention in training.
i was just dumped after 7 months of being idolized, devalued, discard and abandoned by a woman i love. while i didn't realize until after being stomped on and demoralized for being a good partner, she applied almost every narcissist actiom possible.
she spawned it on me after 6 months of dating and went as a coach as she had completed all other courses. she tried to recruit me multiple times upon returning each time more insulting.
After she returned, she was not the same girl. very self centered, egotistical, mean, non loving etc. She dumped me cold over phone and no closure at all, even though things had been great. and continued to hoover and rub things n my face as well as blame me for everything while never owning up to herself or realizing her behaviors. she would always reply in a tantrum and insult me instead of answering questions or talking, respecting my thoughts.
my point is, i started to think after this research and her behavior, choices for years prior made her had made her an emotionless, narcissist. interesting corrolation ny someone whos overcome landmark.
Second point relates to this quote:
"The worst mind fuck is when a predator will do something that that makes you go into the freeze/shock reaction then tell you you've consented. Or if you do find the courage to complain later on, will accuse you of being crazy or selfish or "out of integrity" for having changed your mind."
again i didnt reakize the abuse until broken, but she constantly confused me with words, actions and behaviors that would make any human rise up. it was always my fault for taking it wrongly. or shed criticize minute flaws about me passive aggressively abd then when i got upset she callrd me too sensitive. often called too sensitive for reactional communication to her behaviors or belittling.
After breakup i had no idea who i was, what i stood for, or what worth i once had. i was brainwashed to meaningless nothing bc of her emotional abuse and manipulation tactics derived from years of Choices.
I can tell you, this quote is so true and happened to me weeks ago. theres no greater mind fuck or pain than rebuilding yourself, a fake love, fake relationship, fake memories, being smeared afteteards for mo reason and leading me to worthlessness. time has helped me overcome a small bit but those first few days were stranfest feeling of my life.
i was just dumped after 7 months of being idolized, devalued, discard and abandoned by a woman i love. while i didn't realize until after being stomped on and demoralized for being a good partner, she applied almost every narcissist actiom possible.
she spawned it on me after 6 months of dating and went as a coach as she had completed all other courses. she tried to recruit me multiple times upon returning each time more insulting.
After she returned, she was not the same girl. very self centered, egotistical, mean, non loving etc. She dumped me cold over phone and no closure at all, even though things had been great. and continued to hoover and rub things n my face as well as blame me for everything while never owning up to herself or realizing her behaviors. she would always reply in a tantrum and insult me instead of answering questions or talking, respecting my thoughts.
my point is, i started to think after this research and her behavior, choices for years prior made her had made her an emotionless, narcissist. interesting corrolation ny someone whos overcome landmark.
Second point relates to this quote:
"The worst mind fuck is when a predator will do something that that makes you go into the freeze/shock reaction then tell you you've consented. Or if you do find the courage to complain later on, will accuse you of being crazy or selfish or "out of integrity" for having changed your mind."
again i didnt reakize the abuse until broken, but she constantly confused me with words, actions and behaviors that would make any human rise up. it was always my fault for taking it wrongly. or shed criticize minute flaws about me passive aggressively abd then when i got upset she callrd me too sensitive. often called too sensitive for reactional communication to her behaviors or belittling.
After breakup i had no idea who i was, what i stood for, or what worth i once had. i was brainwashed to meaningless nothing bc of her emotional abuse and manipulation tactics derived from years of Choices.
I can tell you, this quote is so true and happened to me weeks ago. theres no greater mind fuck or pain than rebuilding yourself, a fake love, fake relationship, fake memories, being smeared afteteards for mo reason and leading me to worthlessness. time has helped me overcome a small bit but those first few days were stranfest feeling of my life.