cryst-oh,
What you may be lacking here is context. Married people go into LGATS, and often end up with their marriages falling apart.
There are many different types of love, and in most, a sexual relationship would be inappropriate. In the context of a life partner, a monogamous sexual relationship is healthy, expected and normal.
I don't care what people on the outside of my S.O. relationship do with their sex lives, as long as they keep their hands off MY partner, and those of others who are in comitted, monogamous relatioships.
If someone goes into a relationship with the agreement that there are no strings attached - fine! I don't care if they want to pile up as many people as they can get onto the bed.
It does get dicey when the wife just had a baby four months ago, based on her husband's vows to be faithful and forsake all others, only to have him come home from an LGAT and declare that he wants an open marriage. This was NOT what she has agreed to, or was promised. If she can't live with that, she is then left holding the bag for the next 20 years.
The cheating partner can also be the wife, but I am just giving this example, because I have seen an appalling number of young girls talked into having kids that they were not ready for, based on some guy's promise to always be there, and to be faithful. Then, in addition to the infidelity, the LGAT takes up more and more of his time.
To top it all off, the narcissism encouraged by LGATS can also inspire the newly cheating, abandoning spouse to not even attempt to be there as a co-parent, because they throw in the excuse, "I have too much of my own stuff to deal with, right now." They ignore the fact that their soon-to-be ex-spouse has their own stuff to deal with, as well, but still has to be there for the child. What single parent ever hasn't?!?
And these organizations are always on their respective soapboxes telling people to be in integrity, keep their promises and honor their commitments!
I think that should start at home!
What you may be lacking here is context. Married people go into LGATS, and often end up with their marriages falling apart.
There are many different types of love, and in most, a sexual relationship would be inappropriate. In the context of a life partner, a monogamous sexual relationship is healthy, expected and normal.
I don't care what people on the outside of my S.O. relationship do with their sex lives, as long as they keep their hands off MY partner, and those of others who are in comitted, monogamous relatioships.
If someone goes into a relationship with the agreement that there are no strings attached - fine! I don't care if they want to pile up as many people as they can get onto the bed.
It does get dicey when the wife just had a baby four months ago, based on her husband's vows to be faithful and forsake all others, only to have him come home from an LGAT and declare that he wants an open marriage. This was NOT what she has agreed to, or was promised. If she can't live with that, she is then left holding the bag for the next 20 years.
The cheating partner can also be the wife, but I am just giving this example, because I have seen an appalling number of young girls talked into having kids that they were not ready for, based on some guy's promise to always be there, and to be faithful. Then, in addition to the infidelity, the LGAT takes up more and more of his time.
To top it all off, the narcissism encouraged by LGATS can also inspire the newly cheating, abandoning spouse to not even attempt to be there as a co-parent, because they throw in the excuse, "I have too much of my own stuff to deal with, right now." They ignore the fact that their soon-to-be ex-spouse has their own stuff to deal with, as well, but still has to be there for the child. What single parent ever hasn't?!?
And these organizations are always on their respective soapboxes telling people to be in integrity, keep their promises and honor their commitments!
I think that should start at home!
