Throughmyeyes,
What he's doing on social media sounds a lot to me like triangulation, which is a classic narcissist tactic. As we know, Landmark seems to turn seemingly normal people into narcs.
I had something similar happen to me, via someone whom I now believe to be a "dark triad" narcissist. They beat you to the punch by contacting YOUR friends and giving them the version of the story they want them to believe.
This person was NOT in Landmark, but she contacted the person who recruited me into L.E. Her daughter was getting married, and my (former) L.E. friend was a shaman, and could perform wedding ceremonies. The narc asked me for my shaman friend's phone number, saying that she wanted to ask her about doing the ceremony.
My shaman friend told me that she hadn't heard from her. Then, right after the wedding, my shaman friend started behaving strangely toward me, and i could see that she had turned against me. She also seemed to have bits of information that the narc would have given her, and started asking me questions that led me to believe that she had been coached, again, by the narc.
I ended up losing that entire social group. I don't know what you can do to avoid this, as the narcs are correct in their assumption that most people end up believing the first thing they hear, even if it is a bald-faced lie. This is why they preempt you with their side of the story.
What he's doing on social media sounds a lot to me like triangulation, which is a classic narcissist tactic. As we know, Landmark seems to turn seemingly normal people into narcs.
I had something similar happen to me, via someone whom I now believe to be a "dark triad" narcissist. They beat you to the punch by contacting YOUR friends and giving them the version of the story they want them to believe.
This person was NOT in Landmark, but she contacted the person who recruited me into L.E. Her daughter was getting married, and my (former) L.E. friend was a shaman, and could perform wedding ceremonies. The narc asked me for my shaman friend's phone number, saying that she wanted to ask her about doing the ceremony.
My shaman friend told me that she hadn't heard from her. Then, right after the wedding, my shaman friend started behaving strangely toward me, and i could see that she had turned against me. She also seemed to have bits of information that the narc would have given her, and started asking me questions that led me to believe that she had been coached, again, by the narc.
I ended up losing that entire social group. I don't know what you can do to avoid this, as the narcs are correct in their assumption that most people end up believing the first thing they hear, even if it is a bald-faced lie. This is why they preempt you with their side of the story.