Hi bunny_mac,
I moved in to lodge with a house of people. Two of them do RealLove and a group is run once a week in the house. I thought from the very beginning that it all sounded a bit weird and cult like, but was assured it was not. Having studied three university degrees I decided to immerse myself into it all and learn for myself what it was all about - reading books, attending groups, listening in on calls, watching video blogs. I came to the conclusion some time ago that it was NOT a coaching program at all, but a full on cult organisation. It ticks every box of what a modern cult looks and behaves like. There are, apparently, a lot of other disoriented RL people who are confused about it all. What is all about unconditional loving is not actually loving at all. I am shocked that marriages and partners are broken up, people cannot go on a date unless they are told to by their mummy or daddy. This whole 'holding' business is creepy and does not serve to heal anyone. I had it out this week with this person and they refuse to believe me, laughing at me and telling me that I clearly need to do RL, and again, that one day in the future I might be allowed to go on a date when I am deemed 'ready' by them!! I have decided to pull out completely as I have learned enough, it all just keeps repeating itself now. I am aiming to write a counselling program to help people who leave JWs and cults like this to feel better about themselves again, to help others to get out etc...
This organisation is shocking in so many ways. It disguises itself as a charity but does not do any conventional charity work - except give discounts to its own members now and again to attend its own courses. It has a business front of being a 'coaching organisation' when in fact it doesn't bring anyone to a state of healing at all - they are dependent and co-dependant entirely on their daddies and mummies (sorry coaches) to help them through their whole life. A real coaching organisation works out a plan with a set cost and an end in sight, with self-empowerment as the goal. Not RealLove, because no one heals and will always need them. They tell everyone that they are only 2 or 3 years old in their head and need to relive their childhood as an adult - hence the being nursed and loved like a little baby. Sickening to see being done!! The monetary investment is huge. The reliance on RealLove is huge. The fear of everyone not in RealLove is huge, so much so that people can only be with RL people so that they do not get splashed, damaged etc. It just goes on and on and on. This organisation stinks in every way possible and I am glad I have learned enough and can step aside now and do something useful to help others. The worst bit is that they reel people in who are at their most weak and vulnerable emotionally, and so fall prey to their teachings. Those who have fallen prey believe everyone not in RealLove is 'insane'. If I question anything, particularly the great leader of it all, people just shut up and walk away. It is so difficult to get through - I am not sure where to start to help someone out of it. I am trying to help someone myself. But I guess meeting people who have left cults and religious cults and speaking with them will provide some information to help. I wish I could help you more - and I suspect I have probably heard of your ex - but I am now blocked from everything.
I moved in to lodge with a house of people. Two of them do RealLove and a group is run once a week in the house. I thought from the very beginning that it all sounded a bit weird and cult like, but was assured it was not. Having studied three university degrees I decided to immerse myself into it all and learn for myself what it was all about - reading books, attending groups, listening in on calls, watching video blogs. I came to the conclusion some time ago that it was NOT a coaching program at all, but a full on cult organisation. It ticks every box of what a modern cult looks and behaves like. There are, apparently, a lot of other disoriented RL people who are confused about it all. What is all about unconditional loving is not actually loving at all. I am shocked that marriages and partners are broken up, people cannot go on a date unless they are told to by their mummy or daddy. This whole 'holding' business is creepy and does not serve to heal anyone. I had it out this week with this person and they refuse to believe me, laughing at me and telling me that I clearly need to do RL, and again, that one day in the future I might be allowed to go on a date when I am deemed 'ready' by them!! I have decided to pull out completely as I have learned enough, it all just keeps repeating itself now. I am aiming to write a counselling program to help people who leave JWs and cults like this to feel better about themselves again, to help others to get out etc...
This organisation is shocking in so many ways. It disguises itself as a charity but does not do any conventional charity work - except give discounts to its own members now and again to attend its own courses. It has a business front of being a 'coaching organisation' when in fact it doesn't bring anyone to a state of healing at all - they are dependent and co-dependant entirely on their daddies and mummies (sorry coaches) to help them through their whole life. A real coaching organisation works out a plan with a set cost and an end in sight, with self-empowerment as the goal. Not RealLove, because no one heals and will always need them. They tell everyone that they are only 2 or 3 years old in their head and need to relive their childhood as an adult - hence the being nursed and loved like a little baby. Sickening to see being done!! The monetary investment is huge. The reliance on RealLove is huge. The fear of everyone not in RealLove is huge, so much so that people can only be with RL people so that they do not get splashed, damaged etc. It just goes on and on and on. This organisation stinks in every way possible and I am glad I have learned enough and can step aside now and do something useful to help others. The worst bit is that they reel people in who are at their most weak and vulnerable emotionally, and so fall prey to their teachings. Those who have fallen prey believe everyone not in RealLove is 'insane'. If I question anything, particularly the great leader of it all, people just shut up and walk away. It is so difficult to get through - I am not sure where to start to help someone out of it. I am trying to help someone myself. But I guess meeting people who have left cults and religious cults and speaking with them will provide some information to help. I wish I could help you more - and I suspect I have probably heard of your ex - but I am now blocked from everything.