Re: Depressed after LGAT

Hello,

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with your emotions one year on after losing your ex-fiancé in this manner.

Did you also participate in the training too? I'm sorry if I haven't read any earlier posts and you did.

Its now 8 years since I participated in a LGAT and I think it does take time because I found it hard to accept that I 'fell for it". I found it very helpful reading about their tricks on here and realising that I was not a fool but they were very clever con artists.

And then you had a double whammy of losing a fiancé too.

I think it takes time to adjust. So I'm sadly not too surprised that you feel this way.

Are there ways you can build up your own self esteem again other than via a relationship? I'm glad you have found someone else but if they haven't been through a LGAT, they might not fully understand how traumatic it was. And you might not want to drag them into that mess anyway.

What I discovered is that the LGATs work on making the participants believe that without their support, your life is meaningless. And until I found other areas of meaning in my life - which I have - it was hard to move on.

I'm sure you will in time. And I hope you find ways sooner than later.