I'm not sure what's going on, as far as your not being able to react. I have had that happen to me, too, where i would not respond to something at the time, and know that i should have.
I believe that you wrote in your first post that you would respond differently if it were a man behaving this way. Is there any way that you could mentally figure out what you would say or do, if it were a man, and then transplant that response onto this situation? Since it seems to be the same behavior over and over, maybe you could come up with a good response, and then sort of mentally rehearse it.
You are right that this behavior is every bit as offensive and problematic from a gay woman as it is from a man. I too have had a certain minority of gay women harass me, with the attitude that it was okay, because they were women. The ironic part was that they would be the same ones who would rip on men, but would then turn around and imitate the very behaviors that they claimed to despise.
I believe that you wrote in your first post that you would respond differently if it were a man behaving this way. Is there any way that you could mentally figure out what you would say or do, if it were a man, and then transplant that response onto this situation? Since it seems to be the same behavior over and over, maybe you could come up with a good response, and then sort of mentally rehearse it.
You are right that this behavior is every bit as offensive and problematic from a gay woman as it is from a man. I too have had a certain minority of gay women harass me, with the attitude that it was okay, because they were women. The ironic part was that they would be the same ones who would rip on men, but would then turn around and imitate the very behaviors that they claimed to despise.