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As described by Catbus, Summit is even more emotional and mind-bending than Quest. It feeds on the trainees deepest secrets and insecurities. It's no wonder your wife is being illusive and uncommunicative. Catbus covered the major "processes" in Summit. Life boat, especially difficult because you are asked to vote people in the group on or off the theoretical boat. You are only given a certain number of positive votes so there is a lot of pressure to pick the "right" person to put on the life boat. Only those with the most votes at the end of the process actually get saved. However, but the final end of the process everyone sinks, otherwise the trainees might get a superiority complex. The first night is really rough and difficult because they put you in this state of mind that makes you think you're not worth very much.
Then, on the second day, you are asked to "confess" all of your burdens and hurt and harm and regrets to others in the group. The other group members help you "relive" your most painful experiences. I've seen funeral re-enacted, people getting revenge on abusive relationships, even people looking in mirrors to re-enact the punishment they put on themselves. This process goes on for a couple of hours and it is altogether terrible. After all of the catharsis, the trainees are put into small groups and given a "stretch". The groups include things like cows because belly dancers, overly tough muscle men becoming super heroes, "bitchy" women becoming ladies in red, cry babies because cindy lauper, etc. The trainees are asked to come back the next day ready to act out their transformation.
Friday, the trainees meet in their small groups to plan and buy things for the stretch. Stretches typically last 3-4 hours. At the end of the process, the trainees are released of the "nerd" names they were given on the first day (Mormon Mess-up, Daddy's Joy Toy, etc.) and walked through a process where they "discover" their vision statement and mission. When your wife comes home and starts having you ask "who are you" and "why are you here" It's because she gone through this "empowerment" process. After the dinner break, the trainees come back to a "abundance" table full of different fruits, cheeses, and crackers. The trainees are not allowed to feed themselves, they have to be fed by a buddy. The buddy also washes their feet in honor of the purity and royalty that is embedded in each of us that we can discover and live if we only leave behind the nerd self. Some light massage is also involved in this process.
The trainees leave that night to enter a "hug tunnel" created by graduated friends, families, other random graduates who want to attend. The trainees are not allowed to talk for something like 2 hours after training lets out so that they go through the whole tunnel without verbally speaking. The whole idea is that they're only supposed to be communicating with the other graduates on a soul level.
Saturday is full of a bunch of weird, unremarkable processes. They involve concepts such as those proposed in the book "The Little Soul and the Sun". It's a lot of victim blaming by saying the only reason anything bad happens to us is because we react poorly to the situation instead of choosing to learn from it. And of course the day ends with a hard sell to Lift-off and an enrollment challenge for others into quest. Finally graduation at the end of the day.
Summit is a great opportunity for you to start asking your wife some questions. Things like, "you don't have to reveal any of the processes of your training to me, but I can tell that you are going through a lot right now. I just have a small question for you, if someone outside of the training room were asking you the same questions or telling you the same things, how would you react? What would you think of those questions? Why is it ok for the trainers to treat you with disrespect when you wouldn't allow that from anyone else in your life?" You could also remind her that the training staff does not have any true experience in psychology or professional mental health. It may seem like a long journey, but do your best to plant small ideas like this and keep your wife looking at things logically and maybe eventually she'll see the flaws in the logic of the training.
Oooh, another good one is that the training always asks the training to "be their word". Are there times the training staff take exception to this rule by starting trainings late or by treating people with disrespect. If you can plant that ideas she may start recognizing just how often this happens.
I wish you and your family the best.
As described by Catbus, Summit is even more emotional and mind-bending than Quest. It feeds on the trainees deepest secrets and insecurities. It's no wonder your wife is being illusive and uncommunicative. Catbus covered the major "processes" in Summit. Life boat, especially difficult because you are asked to vote people in the group on or off the theoretical boat. You are only given a certain number of positive votes so there is a lot of pressure to pick the "right" person to put on the life boat. Only those with the most votes at the end of the process actually get saved. However, but the final end of the process everyone sinks, otherwise the trainees might get a superiority complex. The first night is really rough and difficult because they put you in this state of mind that makes you think you're not worth very much.
Then, on the second day, you are asked to "confess" all of your burdens and hurt and harm and regrets to others in the group. The other group members help you "relive" your most painful experiences. I've seen funeral re-enacted, people getting revenge on abusive relationships, even people looking in mirrors to re-enact the punishment they put on themselves. This process goes on for a couple of hours and it is altogether terrible. After all of the catharsis, the trainees are put into small groups and given a "stretch". The groups include things like cows because belly dancers, overly tough muscle men becoming super heroes, "bitchy" women becoming ladies in red, cry babies because cindy lauper, etc. The trainees are asked to come back the next day ready to act out their transformation.
Friday, the trainees meet in their small groups to plan and buy things for the stretch. Stretches typically last 3-4 hours. At the end of the process, the trainees are released of the "nerd" names they were given on the first day (Mormon Mess-up, Daddy's Joy Toy, etc.) and walked through a process where they "discover" their vision statement and mission. When your wife comes home and starts having you ask "who are you" and "why are you here" It's because she gone through this "empowerment" process. After the dinner break, the trainees come back to a "abundance" table full of different fruits, cheeses, and crackers. The trainees are not allowed to feed themselves, they have to be fed by a buddy. The buddy also washes their feet in honor of the purity and royalty that is embedded in each of us that we can discover and live if we only leave behind the nerd self. Some light massage is also involved in this process.
The trainees leave that night to enter a "hug tunnel" created by graduated friends, families, other random graduates who want to attend. The trainees are not allowed to talk for something like 2 hours after training lets out so that they go through the whole tunnel without verbally speaking. The whole idea is that they're only supposed to be communicating with the other graduates on a soul level.
Saturday is full of a bunch of weird, unremarkable processes. They involve concepts such as those proposed in the book "The Little Soul and the Sun". It's a lot of victim blaming by saying the only reason anything bad happens to us is because we react poorly to the situation instead of choosing to learn from it. And of course the day ends with a hard sell to Lift-off and an enrollment challenge for others into quest. Finally graduation at the end of the day.
Summit is a great opportunity for you to start asking your wife some questions. Things like, "you don't have to reveal any of the processes of your training to me, but I can tell that you are going through a lot right now. I just have a small question for you, if someone outside of the training room were asking you the same questions or telling you the same things, how would you react? What would you think of those questions? Why is it ok for the trainers to treat you with disrespect when you wouldn't allow that from anyone else in your life?" You could also remind her that the training staff does not have any true experience in psychology or professional mental health. It may seem like a long journey, but do your best to plant small ideas like this and keep your wife looking at things logically and maybe eventually she'll see the flaws in the logic of the training.
Oooh, another good one is that the training always asks the training to "be their word". Are there times the training staff take exception to this rule by starting trainings late or by treating people with disrespect. If you can plant that ideas she may start recognizing just how often this happens.
I wish you and your family the best.